Finding Love: Attachment Matters There’s a common belief that finding love first requires fully loving yourself. But here’s the truth: humans don’t love in isolation; they love in relation to others. Our early experiences with caregivers shape how we perceive and receive love. As infants, we see ourselves through the eyes of our primary attachment…
It is time to grieve – climate anxiety’s underlying feeling If there is one word I would use to describe the themes that have surfaced with me and my clients lately, it’s “existential angst” and “climate anxiety.” Those two words sum up the sensation that our world is rapidly changing around us, and we don’t…
“I am constantly filled with a lurking loneliness, a yearning, clinging to the notion that something outside of me will fix me. But I had had all that the outside had to offer!” Matthew Perry, from Friends, Lovers and The Big Terrible Thing Matthew Perry (or affectionately, Chandler from Friends to us) described it best…
A woman stands at the fridge, staring into its depths. It’s late at night, and she can’t sleep. She isn’t hungry, not really. Instead, she feels kind of empty, and deeply tired. Perhaps she also feels a bit sad, but can’t figure out why. She closes the fridge and listlessly wanders over to the cupboard….
Facing the Void: Healing in Therapy Moving through the Healing Spiral Healing in therapy can sometimes feel like a never-ending process. For those of us who have been on a healing journey for a while, it can seem like “when does this end? When do I get to be finished and be healed?” I often…
Fighting the disease of perfectionism means looking at ourselves beyond what we look like. It means accepting ourselves as good enough without putting requirements or caveats on our okayness.
Script decisions are ways we take care of ourselves, that might not work anymore as grownups. Read about Janine*, her experience of depression, and how she changed her Script.
When looking for mental health support, finding the right therapist for you is important. But what is the difference between a Psychologist, a Psychotherapist, or a Psychiatrist? Know the difference and what you need for yourself.
I was gardening yesterday and thinking about trauma recovery. I enjoyed the sunshine and dug up one of my garden beds to prepare for spring planting. One corner of my garden has been home to an invasive flower species. I have wanted that space for vegetables and decided it was time to dig it up….
Loneliness during the pandemic has become its own crisis. As we all stay at home, for the sake of our loved ones, our vulnerable ones, and our elderly ones, we are faced with a growing realization. We need one another. And loneliness during this pandemic is a massive problem. “If we have no peace, it…
