Finding Love: Attachment Matters There’s a common belief that finding love first requires fully loving yourself. But here’s the truth: humans don’t love in isolation; they love in relation to others. Our early experiences with caregivers shape how we perceive and receive love. As infants, we see ourselves through the eyes of our primary attachment…
“I am constantly filled with a lurking loneliness, a yearning, clinging to the notion that something outside of me will fix me. But I had had all that the outside had to offer!” Matthew Perry, from Friends, Lovers and The Big Terrible Thing Matthew Perry (or affectionately, Chandler from Friends to us) described it best…
A woman stands at the fridge, staring into its depths. It’s late at night, and she can’t sleep. She isn’t hungry, not really. Instead, she feels kind of empty, and deeply tired. Perhaps she also feels a bit sad, but can’t figure out why. She closes the fridge and listlessly wanders over to the cupboard….
